Is Your Pelvis still birthing?

October 8, 2015 in Childbirth, Pelvic Floor, Pelvis, Post Partum, Women's Sex Issues

Is Your Pelvis Still trying to Birth Your Baby?

Labor can be such an arduous task. Whether it’s really quick or lasts for days, the impact on the body is huge, especially for the pelvis. It doesn’t matter how long it takes to get the baby out, the pelvis can still be left in its open birthing position. It can remain this way for months to many years.

 

I first identified this issue in my aunt who had a very traumatic birth with her first son who was 47 years old at the time I found this. Her pelvis was still open from birthing. When I realized what was going on I started looking for it other women who came to see me and was surprised how often I found it.

 

How do I know if a pelvis is still birthing?

 

I’m able to feel what the energy of the bones and tissues want to do. I listen to the body and see what wants to happen. No matter what part of the body, an ankle sprain, I can tell you how you twisted your ankle, an injury to your shoulder, leg or pelvis, your body holds onto the energy of the injury. It’s in the tissues and remains there and your body has to work around it. It’s usually not a big deal except most of the time we keep reinjuring it, in the same way. That could because the energy of the injury remains in the tissues until we release it. It could also be why some injuries just never seem to fully heal.

 

Birthing Pattern in the Pelvis

Birthing Pelvis

Pelvic Motions during pushing phase of birth

It’s the same thing with birth and the pelvis. When the pelvis births a baby, the sacrum pivots and in the pushing phase the tailbone moves backwards and the sit bones, or ischiums splay out to the side to get wider.   Usually this is the position that most women get stuck in because they tend to have a trauma response in their body from the intensity of the labor.   Pushing too long or the baby coming through too quickly can create a shock effect in the tissues and they get stuck in this open birthing position.

 

I’ve been asking these women whose pelvis’ are still birthing what they are experiencing and the effects have been from severe to subtle.   The most common complaint was a sense of feeling ungrounded.   Some complained of not being able to sit comfortably or evenly on their buttock.   Others had more subtle complaints of feeling spacey, just not the same, or feeling weird when walking. One of the bigger issues women can have from this is painful intercourse and an inability to contract their pelvic floor muscles.

 

Since all of the pelvic floor muscles attach to the bones of the pelvis, having the bones widened puts a stretch on these muscles. A stretched out muscle doesn’t have the same contraction ability and will appear weak.   These lengthened muscles also don’t have the give or flexibility they need in order to allow penetration to happen with intercourse.   My aunt I mentioned earlier has very little to almost no contraction of her pelvic floor muscles. Another client I saw was still in a birthing pattern and she was having pain with penetration. After one session of bringing her ischiums back together, her pelvic floor muscles relaxed and she had no more pain!

 So what do I do?

It’s a shame that the main treatment for weakened pelvic floor muscles is to see a   women’s health physical therapists, yet most of them don’t know how to assess or treat a pelvis stuck in the birthing position. No amount of kegels or biofeedback is going to help you get a strained, traumatized muscle stronger until it gets some help. It’s amazing how instantaneously a muscle can respond and contract when it’s not being lengthened or in a state of shock from the birth.

 

Most chiropractors don’t know about this stuck birthing pelvis and your doctor will most likely look at you weird if you bring this to their attention.   They all are just dealing with the physical tissues that when you look at the tissues everything appears just fine.   They aren’t aware of and don’t know how to address the energetics, emotions or trauma that get so tied up into the tissues keeping them held in this birthing pattern. You have to address them all in order for the tissues to release and the pelvis to return to it’s normal pre-birth state.

 

I have found in working with women that we need to address ALL of the trauma or issues that occurred during the birth so the pelvis can return to it’s birthing position after a treatment.   The sooner after the birth one comes in the better.   It’s easier to release the birth pattern because it hasn’t been stuck in the body for a length of time for it to think it’s the new normal position to stay in. However no matter how long it’s been you can still release the bones and tissues so they can find their natural place. It’s just takes a bit longer.

 

 

 

 

 

Valuing Your Body and Instincts During Birth

January 10, 2014 in Childbirth, Pelvis, Pregnancy

 

Pregnancy can be an overwhelming time for you and your body.  So many changes occur to your body as it swells to unrecognizable shape and proportion.  Then comes the uncertainty of birth.  How is this baby supposed to get out?  Really?  You can read all the books, watch all the videos and attend all the childbirth classes you want to prepare yourself for the anticipated day of your babies arrival.  Yet nothing can really prepare you for what you are going to experience.  Because no one really knows what YOUR experience is going to be of how YOUR baby chooses to come out.

 

This may sound kind of gloomy but let me reassure you of one thing.  That baby will find it’s way out one way or another.  The more prepared you are for your birth of what you CAN expect will help you relax into the process of what needs to occur. Read all the books, watch all the videos and take all those classes.  Know what needs to happen in your body for birth and what you truly desire to happen for you and your baby.  Then let it all go!

 

Letting Go In Labor

 

That’s right, let it go.  Because birth is really about letting go.  Allowing the process to happen.  Your body is designed to get your baby out.  When we can really connect into that sacred space deep within us you will know exactly what you need to do to help get your baby out.  Many women would benefit from really finding this space of knowingness within so they can listen to it during labor.  Yet most modern day hospitals and OB’s aren’t designed/trained to help women find this inner wisdom.

 

 

Giving Up your Power During Birth

 

We give our power over to our doctor and disconnect from our inner knowingness.  So many women in my practice have shared how they had a cervical check and were only 6-7 cm dilated and shortly after needed to push but was told not to push because they couldn’t be at 10 already.  When we listen to the people around us and not to our body’s signal, because we don’t know any better, more of that disconnect occurs.  When you try to stop from pushing when your uterus is pushing your baby out it creates all kinds of energetic blocks in your pelvis.  Your baby gets the confusing message, come out, no don’t come out.  There is a holding energy that anchors in your pelvis.  You lose that trust of your body that you once had or maybe never really had.

 

It’s challenging for a first time mom to understand what is going on in her body during labor to really trust herself to know.  Yet the more you can connect into your inner knowingness the more you can question other peoples judgements of your situation.  Your body knows how to do this so if you feel like pushing listen to your body.  Value the wisdom that your body knows how to get this baby out.

 

I saw one mom you came in for a post partum session and I kept feeling the energetic pattern of the babies head going into her right hip while there was a twisting of her upper body to the left.  When I asked about this she reported her husband was holding her right hand up by her shoulder while she was pushing.  Instinctually she let go of his hand and reached over to the left side bedrail and pushed.  Then her baby shifted into the center of her pelvis to come out.  Yet there was fear when this happened and this pattern was stuck in her body.  Identify and releasing the fear allowed the pattern in her body to let go.  Twisting her upper body to the left put some torque into her pelvis to shift the baby over into the outlet to get the baby out.  When I explained to her why she did what she did, she was able to value her body’s instinctual knowingness better.  YOUR BODY KNOWS!

 

So how do you connect to your inner knowingness?

 

It starts with a practice of quieting yourself and really connecting into your body.  Connect into your pelvis.  Feel the baby down in your pelvis.  Feel any sensations you feel in your body.  Become still and quiet and just feel what you feel inside of you.  Where do you get drawn?  Bring your breathe down to your pelvis or wherever you get drawn in your body.  The more you can practice this now the easier you will do so during your birth. During labor clear all the distractions around you and connect inside of your body.  See and sense what your body wants to do and get into that position.

 

A colleague of mine was in labor with her second child and she was feeling like she was losing her hold on the contractions and not getting anywhere as her labor wasn’t progressing.  She kicked everyone out of her room and quieted herself and went down and connected into her pelvis.  She got up and knelt on her knees with her butt up in the air and head down and stayed there till she felt something change inside.  Then she was able to continue on with her labor and push her baby out.  She did not know of inversion before this but this is a great technique to rotate a baby whose head is coming into your pelvis in a more challenging way, (OP or occiput posterior).  She got this information from her body and knew what to do.

 

So whenever you are feeling stuck with anything in life, whether it be birth or anything else, connecting into your pelvis and womb space can offer you a creative answer or direction.  If you need any support in feeling this connection I’d love to help you out.  I am amazed at the significant changes in my life since I’ve really embraced and reconnected to my pelvis.  It’s a powerful area and worthy of our attention.

 

 

 

 

Healing From Birth, a new mom’s story

April 4, 2013 in Childbirth, Post Partum

Image courtesy of Tom Clare at FreeDigitalPhotos.net

Image courtesy of Tom Clare at FreeDigitalPhotos.net

I saw a new mom of a 3 month old today.  She was tired, experiencing some anxiety, feeling discombobulated and not fully connected to her baby.  She expressed that she felt lonely inside with the baby not in there.  Her birth experience didn’t seem that traumatic.   It happened rather quickly for a first birth and no interventions were needed.  Yet a day after her birth, when she went to soak in a bath, her body shook uncontrollably.  A clear sign of a traumatic response, where the body shakes to release the excess energy stuck in her nervous system.  It’s good that her body was trying to do something to help, yet she still did not feel like herself.

Her baby was having a hard time initially with breastfeeding and wasn’t latched on well and lost a lot of weight.  It was discovered he had some low tone issues in his upper body that was making it hard for him to breastfeed.  This shook her even more as she felt like she wasn’t able to “read” her baby and know what to do.  She felt that when the baby was inside she really was connected to him and knew what he needed.

In evaluating her energy in her pelvis it felt very turbulent, especially at the opening of the vagina.  There was a lot of shock in her pelvic region too.  Her uterus was releasing the post birth energy that usually flows out but it stopped in her vaginal area.   This post birth energy is the connection piece between mother and baby.  It offers support to both mom and baby in helping to understand each other.

There is also a birth energy field around all pregnant women and this field is very open during the birth process.  Disruptions during the birth can leave negative imprints on this field.  The birth energy field without disruptions and imprints has a vibrant, clear quality to it, almost crystalline like.  Imprints can feel heavy and look dark to those that can see or feel them.

This mom’s birth field had some dark, heaviness to it.  Even though there weren’t any obvious issues she dealt with during her birth, the birth itself was overwhelming to her body and registered as trauma.  In guiding her to clear away this trauma and clean up her birth energy field, the heaviness lifted and the energy around her felt more light and free.

Her vaginal area remained chaotic though, so we focused on reconnecting her to the moment in her birth where she felt safe and capable of birthing this baby.  As she remembered that moment, her pelvis softened.  Turning her attention to her uterus I guided her to think about the post birth energy flow.  Envisioning her baby lying on her chest post birth, I asked her to allow that birth flow to connect from her uterus to her baby.  This flow is a way to access specific information about your baby.  Flow and connection between you and your baby is important and always present throughout your child’s life and can be sent to your child at any time no matter where they are.

Just as this mom was visualizing and connecting to her birth flow, her partner brought the baby into the treatment room.  We laid him on her chest and the energy between the two helped to soften both mom and babe.   The birth energy field also felt lighter around them as well.

When her baby was lying on her chest I could still sense moms hesitancy with her baby.   There was something inhibiting her from really connecting to her baby.

This mom felt so connected to her baby when he was inside her, she felt she really knew what he needed.  Now that he was outside she felt less able to respond to his needs.   It seemed that the noise from his crying was stopping her from accessing her intuition about his needs.   Her hearing and visual senses were over powering that internal knowingness she felt so strongly while pregnant with him.  As we worked to help clear the trauma from her pelvis and reconnect her to her wisdom inside she was able to get beyond her outside senses to feel into him and want he was really needing.  Mom felt much more connected to her baby and more confident in attending to her baby.

After our session I heard from mom.

“I definitely notice clearing in the vaginal trauma and an end to that lonely feeling. I also don’t feel so lost. I think the kegels are more even and less sore when I do them. Feeling for that birth energy may be an ongoing process but I feel like I have a start. Thanks again so much!”

 

 

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