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2 Types of Squats for birth

 

Post Partum Care of Your Body

February 26, 2013 in Childbirth, Pelvic Floor, Pelvis, Post Partum

POST PARTUM CARE

Congratulations on the arrival of your baby!  Now that your baby’s here, now WHAT do you do with your body!?!?

Whether you had a caesarian section or a vaginal birth your body has just completed the most strenuous feat.  After the adrenaline and fatigue wear off you may be wondering what has happened to your body?  Things may not feel normal in your abdomen or your pelvis.    That is where Intuitive Hands Physical Therapy can help!

C-Section Recovery

Remember you have just had major surgery!  You need to be protective of your abdomen and not lift anything heavier than your baby.  It’s very important to watch the way you get up and down from laying, always remembering to roll over to your side first.  Your activities should be limited the first 6 weeks until you get the all clear from your MD that your incision is well healed.

SCAR MASSAGE

Once you get that clearance it is VERY IMPORTANT to massage your scar.   You want to move the scar up, down, side to side and rub it between your fingers.  There are many layers you want to work through so start off superficially and work till you can move the tissues deep down in the abdomen.   It may be very tender initially but do what you can to keep the scar tissue from adhering to other tissues.  It’s been my experience that 10-15 years down the road women come to me with frequency of urination.  They have scar tissue from their c-sections that is inhibiting the bladder from expanding.  A session or two of scar tissue release work gets them back to normal voiding frequencies.  You can avoid this by massaging your scar early on.

VAGINAL BIRTHS

The pelvis is amazing in its ability to open up to pass a baby through its canal.  Sometimes during labor the mechanics of the pelvis opening doesn’t work properly and you can experience a difficult delivery and have lots of back labor or pelvic pains.  If the delivery was traumatic in any way the pelvis can have a hard time going back into its normal position, thus creating pain for you.  At Intuitive Hands Physical Therapy we specialize in helping the pelvis find its natural home and help you get out of pain after delivery.

THE PELVIC FLOOR

It is quite common to experience a tear to the pelvic floor during childbirth.  Depending on the degree of tear, from 1st to 4th degree, you can develop scar tissue that can inhibit the pelvic floor.  Scar tissue is not as flexible as our normal tissue so intercourse can be somewhat painful the first couple of times after childbirth.   If intercourse continues to be painful please see a women’s health physical therapist to have them work on your pelvic floor and release any scar tissue that may be present.

Scar tissue can also inhibit the pelvic floor muscles from contracting as strongly as they could thus leaving you with weakness that could contribute to stress incontinence.   Just like our shoulders get knots in them, our pelvic floor does the same.  These knots can be caused by scar tissue and can prevent the muscles from contracting fully.  A session of soft tissue mobilization, using just a gloved finger can help work out those knots and free up the scar tissue so the muscles can work more normally.  You can really tell a difference in a “Kegel” contraction after your muscles have been fully released.

 

EVERY MOM SHOULD HAVE A BODYWORK SESSION AFTER CHILDBIRTH

Your body has just completed the most arduous task!  Think about what your body has been through in the last 10 months.  The baby grew so big, your belly was huge and what do you think happened to your organs?  The baby pushed them way up into your chest and somehow they find their way back down but in the meantime they can create some mid back pains as you try to care for your wee one.

Your pelvis can get out of whack from opening so wide to allow the baby through and could use help finding its place back home again.

If you had a c-section the doctors might have taken all your small and large intestines out and go through them all to make sure there’s no kink in them before sewing you back up.   I’ve had several women come to me complaining of things just not feeling quite right in the pelvis and abdomen after the surgery, and they were right.

One session can help you feel back to normal again.  We can check to make sure your organs are happy and in their rightful places, make sure your abdominal tissues can move freely, and check to make sure your pelvis and pelvic floor are working right and all the pieces are in their proper place.

So any aches and pains you may have post partum can be addressed in a treatment session with Lynn.

Contact her today for your post partum session for your ticket back to feeling normal in your body again!

 

Hi Lynn – I wanted to tell you that last night was the first night since my last pregnancy that I slept a solid 8 hours without having to get up to pee.  Unbelievable!  And all day I have felt so different too – I can’t really describe it.  It’s like what you said, I haven’t really thought about my bladder every 10 minutes like before because it wasn’t bothering me! Again, I thought I was bordering on a compulsive disorder with how much this issue defined my life.  

So I just want to say thank you, thank you, thank you from the bottom of my heart  – if I can write a testimonial for you or share my story please just let me know.  Now I know that no amount of kegels, core conditioning, etc. was going to help this problem go away – I am just so relieved that I found you and I avoided a costly surgery because of it. 

~A. S.

Sitting funny or a little off kilter?

January 8, 2018 in Uncategorized

Do you feel like you aren’t sitting evenly on your buttocks after birth?

 

Do things seem a little off down there?  You feel a little off?  Well adding a newborn can throw anyone off but this is a “in my body offness”.   (I’m creating new words here; do you like it?)

Well, it’s probably because you are!

 

In working with hundreds of post partum women I’ve seen how birth can create an uneven base in your body, that base is your pelvis.   So many women having problems in their body whether it be incontinence, prolapsing of pelvic organs, general weakness in your body or a sense of feeling off, can have their pelvis stuck in a birthing position.

 

BIRTH RESPONSE IN THE PELVIS

 

When the baby passes through your pelvis the sit bones expand out to the side as the baby comes out.

Now looking at that pelvic ring you would think the baby can only come out centrally and evenly, but that’s not always the case.  It would be nice if it was, but unfortunately I see hundreds of women with one ischium, or sit bone, splayed out more than the other.  Or both of their ischiums are stuck splayed out, still in the birthing position.  This creates that uneven, ungrounded, or off-balanced feeling in your body, especially when you are sitting.  Or you can still have an ischium out of position and not feel anything at all, until maybe you go to stretch your hamstrings or some other weird little feeling around your hips or buttocks.

 

IS THIS YOU?

 

I recently worked on both of my aunts and they both had this issue.  One aunt has a 26-year-old daughter who is the youngest of her 3 children.  She was complaining of feeling a pulling, pain deep in her left hip only when she stretched her hamstring on that side.  The other side felt fine.  Knowing the hamstrings main attachment is to the ischium I checked to see what hers were doing.  Her left ischium was more splayed out to the side than the right.   When I helped it find it’s way back to its normal position my aunt was able to stretch her hamstring again without any pain in her hip.

 

When asked about her births she reported they all were short, “easy” and less than 7 hours.  Notice I put easy in quotations there!  But it’s not like she was pushing for hours on end and she still has this issue, 26 years later!  Since I see women who are having bigger issues after birth, usually I find this asymmetry in women who’ve been pushing for 2+ hours.   That made me even more concerned that this is a possibility in ANY birth!

 

My other aunt who’s oldest is 47 years old, had both of her ischiums splayed way out to the side.  She’s been living in this state for 47 years!  When asked about her 3 births she reported the first one took a long time and she pushed for several hours.  It was rough one, she said!  It felt like her body never really completed that birth.  When we got done with her treatment and had brought her ischiums back together she realized how grounded she felt.  It was like her body could finally stop doing something and just be, something this aunt has had a hard time doing in her life!

 

Other women I’ve seen in my practice complain of not feeling even when sitting and not feeling balanced in their body.  Then after the treatment they have a greater sense of balance in their pelvis, able to sit more evenly and there is ease in their body again.

 

REALIGNING YOUR ISHCIUMS

 

Bringing the pelvis back to midline again is a relatively easy thing to do but not everyone is looking for it or can sense what the bones are doing.  Using touch and tuning into the bones, my hands can sense the energy of the birth pattern and feel what the bones are doing energetically.  When all is good the bones are neutral and there is no movement noted, yet when there is a pattern in there they move into that pattern when you tune into it.  There is an outward force of energy in the bone when it is still splaying out from birth.  I don’t know of any other motion that we do with our body that would cause this outward splay of the ischiums other than birth.  A fall may be a close contributor but most impacts send the ischiums inward and not outward.  Maybe a fall onto a hard object with the object hitting between the sits bones, but not many people have that experience, thankfully!

 

When this splaying out energy is felt, it’s just a matter of helping the bones to remember that the birth is over and they can stop pushing outward and come inward again.  I assess this in sitting, having my client sit on a two-inch foam padded bench.  With my palms of my hands under their ischiums I can feel if one is heavier than the other, more forward or more out to the side.  Sometimes there is an oblique positioning of the bone, forward and out to the side.

 

When teaching this to a group of midwives and birth professionals we found that just having several people feel into what the bones wanted to do, without trying to treat them, helped them shift back into place.  So if you are a health practitioner, you can feel for yourself how your client is sitting and how even the pressure is under your hands.  When you become aware of the pattern you can encourage the bones to find their midline directly under your client.  Gentle force is all that is needed when coupled with intention.

 

SELF HELP FOR YOUR PELVIS?

 

I haven’t figured out a way to do this to yourself, yet! I’ve tried working on myself and find the pelvis is a moving target when you sit on your own hands.  With that being said you can try sitting on a couch and place your hands under your sits bones and see what you can feel.  If you are newly post partum, within that first year, your bones are suppler and may respond nicely to just intentional guidance to find their way back home.  If it’s been longer than a year, it may just take more time to get them to adjust.

 

Making sure you are sitting as evenly as possible, place your hands under your sits bones.  Try and get the same portion of both hands under the sits bones.  See what you can feel with your hands. Do you find one bone heavier in your hand than the other? You want to feel the same pressure and direction of the bone in each hand.  See if you can sense what the lighter feeling bone wants to do?  Does if feel more forward or backwards than the other, more out to the side than the other?  If so, encourage it to become like the other bone.  Sometimes by making the two sides aware of each other, left side feel what the right side feels like and vise versa, we can get them to shift to be like each other.  Crazy, I know, but true!

 

Once you get the bones to come back together from the outside, it is beneficial to work the tissues from the inside to help hold its new position.  I’ve already written about doing internal assessment of your pelvic floor muscles in another post.  Check it out here. ( ADD LINK TO OTHER POST)

 

Getting your ischial bones back in place underneath you allows for a greater sense of balance, groundedness and peace in your body and your life.  Plus sitting is much more comfortable!

 

Check it out and let me know how this works for you!

2 Types of Squats for birth

September 7, 2016 in Childbirth, Pelvis, Pregnancy, Uncategorized

When I was pregnant for the first time 16 years ago I knew squatting was a good idea to help with birth.  Yet I didn’t know much about how to best squat for birth.  Years later having worked with pregnant and post partum women, I’ve learned a lot I wish I knew back then.  But my births went well so what I did must have helped.  Let me share with you what you really want to do to help open up your pelvis for birth.

Pelvic Motions for Birth

For your pelvis to birth your baby the top of the sacrum first needs to move backwards during the first part of labor

counternutation

and then forwards again during the later part of labor.

 

nutation 2

 

So to help your pelvis do these motions, you can do two different types of squats.

Squatting for Birth

To help open up the top part for the first part of labor squatting with your butt tucked under will help make this happen, like this;

squattingnotgoodcounternutation

Yet so many women sit too much in this posture with pressure on the sacrum so you don’t have to work too hard on this squat other than to strengthen your legs.

 

What you really need to work on is the second type of squat because your sacrum needs more help opening up to get your baby out.  This squat is where you stick your butt out as you bend down like this:

squattinggood

 

Keep working on this last squat for the majority of your pregnancy as your sacrum needs more help opening up like this!

When you start laboring you would benefit from you doing the first squat to help allow your baby into your pelvis. Lifting up on your belly while you do so can help too.  Once you hit the second stage of labor then you want to focus on the second squat as that will help your baby to come on out!

 

So there you have the two different types of squats and when they are most effective during pregnancy and birth!   Squat away!!!

 

3 Signs your Pelvis is Still Birthing after Childbirth

March 26, 2016 in Childbirth, Pelvis, Post Partum, Pregnancy, Uncategorized

3 Signs your Pelvis is Still Birthing

 

Your pelvis may still be trying to birth your baby!  In my women’s health physical therapy practice I have discovered a very common pattern that a woman’s pelvis goes into to give birth. I’ve seen it in most every woman I’ve worked on in the last year since I became aware of it.  Only a hand full of women have not presented with this pattern. There is a certain way the pelvis opens up to help the baby get out.

nutation 2

This pattern can get stuck in a women’s pelvis, sometimes for years.   I first discovered this in my aunt who had a very traumatic birth with her first son who was 47 at the time.   So for 47 years her pelvis has been in an open birthing position.  One would think that the bones of the pelvis just go right back into place after the baby comes out.  In some women it does.  In others, which I’m finding is more and more common, it doesn’t.  The one thing I know that is keeping the pelvis from going back to its normal position is trauma!

 

Trauma can keep the pelvis stuck in the birthing position.   Until the trauma is released and the body and pelvis knows it’s safe then the pelvis can come back together to its normal position.   Trauma can be experienced at any time during the birthing process but most typically is occurs during the pushing phase when the pelvis is already open and ready to let the baby out.

 

Anytime a woman gets to the point where she wants to quit, doesn’t feel she can go on, feels out of control, or maybe gets threatened with a c-section a trauma response can happen in the body.

 

A typical trauma response in the body is to fight or flight the situation but since a birthing woman can’t do those two it does the only thing left which is to freeze. This freezing happens while the pelvis is in an opened, birthing position. Until the trauma is released the body tends to hold onto this pattern.

 

I can see how a woman may not recognize this trauma or that her pelvic is still birthing. After opening up so wide to get the baby out, all sense of normalcy, what was felt like before birth, is gone. There is no ground zero in your body once it’s birthed a baby. Also seeing and holding your baby in your arms for the first time is enough to distract anyone from what they’ve just gone through.   The reward of being with your baby seems to outweigh or override any negative feelings felt during the birthing process.

 

But I do know that women can feel a difference in their body after the pelvis has been helped back into its pre-pregnancy state. You must address both the physical position of the pelvis along with releasing any held emotions and trauma in the tissues.

There are 3 signs that I’ve discovered that are clues that your pelvis is still birthing. Let’s see if you have any of them.

 

#1. Your Pelvis is Tilted

The first sign your pelvis is still in a birthing pattern is when you lay down on your back on a hard surface (a soft bed may not the best surface to check this out on) is to check out how level are your hip bones, those little bumps on either side of your pelvis. Are they even? Or do you notice that your right side ilium, or hip bone, is higher than the left?

The typical birthing pattern is the right side will be higher than the left. When lying down on your back the pelvis will be tilted to the left as seen in this picture.

 

Position of pelvis after childbirth

Position of pelvis after childbirth

The reason for this is the sacrum gets jammed up and over to the right during the birth process.

 

Here is a normal posterior view of a sacrum prior to birth.

 

Normal position of sacrum in pelvis

Normal position of sacrum in pelvis

This is how the sacrum shifts to the right for birth.

Sacrum shifted to right

Sacrum shifted to right

This shifting of the sacrum to the right is also why so many women have right-sided low back pain after childbirth.   The sacroiliac joint gets jammed and the sacrum can’t move as freely as it should which is why the pain is created. Getting the sacrum back into proper place alleviates the pain.

There is a two-step process I do to help mobilize the sacrum back into midline again. I haven’t figured out how to help women do this on their own yet! Stay tuned….

 

#2. Sitting Unevenly or Uncomfortably

For the baby to be able to come out of the pelvis the sits bones or ischiums need to splay out to the side. Ideally they splay out evenly.   But depending on the baby’s pathway through the pelvis or the birthing position used, one ischium may be more splayed out to the side. Birthing in a side lying position can limit the mobility of the lower sided pelvis (on the bed) and cause more movement in the upper side (ceiling side). Birthing on your back with two separate people holding your legs at different angles can also potentially cause an imbalance in your pelvis.

If the pelvis remains in this birthing position, sitting may seem different. It can feel uneven, or awkward.   This is not from swelling or tenderness in your perineum, as that can cause discomfort and or pain. If you don’t have pain but sitting still feels weird, it’s because your bones are in a different position than before your birth.

#3. Feeling Ungrounded or Discombobulated

One of the things I ask the moms that I find with birthing pelvis’ is “What are you feeling in your body and in your life?” The most common reply is “ungrounded, not myself or discombobulated”

When we realize the pelvis is our energetic foundation for our body and life, when it is open and unbalanced we don’t have a solid foundation. In one of my clients it felt like energetically she was walking around with her energy just flowing out full blast, like both faucets handles turned on and water spilling out with no container to hold it.  When you can’t hold and contain your energy within you, if can feel a little unsettling. Most new moms may attribute this to figuring out how to care for a newborn, not that she has no energetic container.

 

So if you find you have one, two or all of these signs you now know what’s going on. Your pelvis is stuck in a birthing position and needs help coming back together.  I haven’t figured out a way to help you fix this yourself yet, so finding a Birth Healing Specialist  is your best bet to help your pelvis come back to its normal position after birth.  Click Here to find a practitioner near you!

 

 

 

 

 

 

Hemorrhoids, Fissures and Tears, OH MY!

February 9, 2016 in Childbirth, Pelvic Floor, Post Partum, Pregnancy

Hemorrhoids, Fissures and Tears, OH MY!

Let’s talk about something! It’s not a pleasant subject. It’s the nasty little triad of issues one might face after having a vaginal birth.  I’m talking about the after effects and trauma that can happen to your bottom. It’s rarely discussed before a birth and I believe there is a reason for that.   The physical injury to the pelvic floor area from a vaginal birth can cause significant damage that leads to some rather unpleasant, uncomfortable and down right painful issues some women have to face.   I’m talking about hemorrhoids, fissures and tears that occur in the perineum during and after birth. There are some things you need to know to help you deal with these uncomfortable issues if you find you have developed these.

HEMORRHOIDS

Let’s start with hemorrhoids!

Hemorrhoids are a swelling and inflammation of veins in or around the anus and lower part of the rectum. They can be painful and itchy. Hemorrhoids are very common in pregnancy as the increased weight from carrying the baby causes greater pressures on the pelvic floor. Also prenatal vitamins and hormones cause a slowing down of your colon and swelling of your veins, two factors contributing to constipation that can lead to hemorrhoids.

So to avoid hemorrhoids you’ll want to avoid constipation and the bearing down that usually goes along with it.

The first step is to avoid being constipated.

Diet has a huge implication on constipation. (Please consult a nutritionist for greater help with your diet) By eating more fiber rich foods you can help keep things moving in your colon. Raw veggies are a great way to increase fiber or adding flax seeds to your foods can help too. Be careful in adding too much fiber at first if things aren’t moving well especially if you aren’t doing this next thing.

That is, drinking enough water. Increasing your water intake, especially when you are breastfeeding, will bring more water to help keep things flowing through your colon. Moving your body will also do the same.

The next step it to use good toileting habits. When you sit on the toilet, you want to make sure you keep your back straight and lean forward. Avoid sitting slumped on the toilet. It can help to have your knees higher than your hips. There is the squotty potty chair you can purchase to help with this or you can use two yoga blocks, toilet paper rolls or a big fat can of tomatoes and put your feet upon.

To relax your pelvic floor you can try making different sounds to see which sound bulges your pelvic floor downward more easily. Take a deep breath and say “Grrr!” or “Shhhh” and see which one lengthens your pelvic floor. Use that sound during your next bowel movement to help move things down and out so your pelvic floor stays relaxed!

Once a hemorrhoid is in place you need to decrease any excess pressure on this tissue in order for it to heal. With all the bearing down that happens in birth the rectal tissues need to learn to come back up in and inside again. That can only happen when you avoid bearing down during a bowel movement after your birth. It’s important to allow your stool to pass on it’s own without you having to force it out. Any forcefulness will only exacerbate your hemorrhoids.

Also when dealing with hemorrhoids after birth, I find you also have to address the soft tissue in your vaginal and anal openings.   We’ll cover how to do this later in this article.

Around the anal opening is a sphincter muscle. It’s very common for this muscle to have small “knots” in it from the birth, especially if you tore. These knots don’t allow the muscles to expand evenly to allow your stool to come out. When a hemorrhoid is present, most likely there is a restriction or “knot” in these tissues that can prevent the hemorrhoid from healing. They can also lead to an even greater problem and that is a fissure!

FISSURES

A fissure is a open tear inside the rectal tissues.   Fissures have to be one of THE most painful conditions to recover from after birth.   The problem with this condition is the tear has a hard time healing because it gets reopened every time you have a bowel movement.   It makes having a bowel movement EXTREMELY painful! Some women, who have a fissure, report having chills, breaking out into a sweat and even their whole body shaking after having a bowel movement. The pain afterwards can last for hours. When dealing with a fissure for any length of time the anticipation of a bowel movement can bring fear and greater tightness to the pelvic floor area, which creates a vicious cycle that is hard to break. It’s no fun at all!

There is one thing that has helped my clients when dealing with a fissure and that is to massage their perineum and anal sphincter prior to a bowel movement. Usually there is increased tension in the anal sphincter that is on the opposite side of where the fissure lies. When you release this knot prior to a bowel movement it can lessen the pressures placed on the fissure and allow it to heal a little bit easier.   Stay tuned to learn how to massage your anal sphincter area.

 

TEARING IN YOUR PERINEUM

The third issue that is closely related to hemorrhoids and fissures is tearing in your perineum. Unfortunately tearing from birth is very common for women. Scar tissue forms to help heal a tear. Scar tissue is not as flexible as normal tissue and restricts the tissue mobility in the area. This can inhibit a stools flow out the anal sphincter and contribute to the development and prevent the healing of hemorrhoids and fissures. Mobilizing this scar tissue can help soften the tissues and allow easier flow with less pressures, helping both issues heal.

 

Caring for your Perineum After Birth

So what’s a new mama to do to help her perineum after birth?

Massage this area!

What do you do?  It’s simple!

Take your thumb pad and place it just inside your vaginal opening. Your knuckle should stay on the outside. Place your index finger on your anal sphincter. Start on one side as far as you can go and pinch the two fingers together and see if it feels soft and mushy or hard and resistant to compression. You want your tissues to be soft and supple. Work your way along toward the opposite side and see where the tissues are resistant to compression.   Where there is resistance you can apply pressure by gently compressing the area between your fingers while breathing into the area at the same time. Hold this pressure until you feel the tissues soften and release.

Scar tissue can create thickening and resistance to mobility.   Compression and pressure can help release this but sometimes scar tissue needs more. If you find scar tissue that is not releasing to pressure there can be an emotion stuck in there. Honoring that feeling and releasing whatever emotion is there is needed before it can let go. To read more about how scar tissue and emotions are connected check out this blog post.

Pinching between the anal opening and the vagina works on the upper half of the anal sphincter. For the lower part take your index finger and apply pressure around the sphincter from 3 to 9:00 if you think of it as a clock face. Check to see if you feel any spot more resistant than the others. If you do gently apply pressure with your finger in a downward motion and just hold it until you feel the spot release.

Massaging this area before every bowel movement can allow the tissues to expand more easily for your stool. This can help keep some of the excess pressure off your fissure area and potentially help it heal. Decreasing any resistant or thickened tissues helps to normalize the tissues so your stool flows through more easily.

There’s so much more to all of this that if you don’t find relief from doing the above, please go see a Birth Healing Specialist, women’s health physical therapist or a holistic pelvic care specialist to get some help. You can find a list of Birth Healing Specialists here:  InstituteForBirthHealing  or you can find a Holistic Pelvic Care Therapists here:  WildFeminine.com or a Women’s Health Physical therapist here:  MoveForwardPT.com

 

 

 

Is Your Pelvis still birthing?

October 8, 2015 in Childbirth, Pelvic Floor, Pelvis, Post Partum, Women's Sex Issues

Is Your Pelvis Still trying to Birth Your Baby?

Labor can be such an arduous task. Whether it’s really quick or lasts for days, the impact on the body is huge, especially for the pelvis. It doesn’t matter how long it takes to get the baby out, the pelvis can still be left in its open birthing position andcan remain this way for months to many years.

 

I first identified this issue in my aunt who had a very traumatic birth with her first son who was 47 years old at the time I found this. Her pelvis was still open from birthing. When I realized what was going on I started looking for it other women who came to see me and was surprised how often I found it.

 

How do I know if a pelvis is still birthing?

 

I’m able to feel what the energy of the bones and tissues want to do. I listen to the body and see what wants to happen. No matter what part of the body, an ankle sprain, I can tell you how you twisted your ankle, an injury to your shoulder, leg or pelvis, your body holds onto the energy of the injury. It’s in the tissues and remains there and your body has to work around it. It’s usually not a big deal except most of the time we keep reinjuring it, in the same way. That could because the energy of the injury remains in the tissues until we release it. It could also be why some injuries just never seem to fully heal.

 

Birthing Pattern in the Pelvis

Birthing Pelvis

Pelvic Motions during pushing phase of birth

It’s the same thing with birth and the pelvis. When the pelvis births a baby, the sacrum pivots and in the pushing phase the tailbone moves backwards and the sit bones, or ischiums splay out to the side to get wider.   Usually this is the position that most women get stuck in when they have a trauma response in their body from the intensity of the labor.   Pushing too long or the baby coming through too quickly can create a shock effect in the tissues causing the pelvis to get stuck in this open birthing position.

 

I’ve been asking these women whose pelvis’ are still birthing what they are experiencing and the effects have been from severe to subtle.   The most common complaint was a sense of feeling ungrounded.   Some complained of not being able to sit comfortably or evenly on their buttock.   Others had more subtle complaints of feeling spacey, just not the same, or feeling weird when walking. One of the bigger issues women can have from this is painful intercourse and an inability to contract their pelvic floor muscles.

 

Since all of the pelvic floor muscles attach to the bones of the pelvis, having the bones widened puts a stretch on these muscles. A stretched out muscle doesn’t have the same contraction ability and will appear weak.   These lengthened muscles also don’t have the give or flexibility they need in order to allow penetration to happen with intercourse.   My aunt I mentioned earlier has very little to almost no contraction of her pelvic floor muscles. Another client I saw was still in a birthing pattern and she was having pain with penetration. After one session of bringing her ischiums back together, her pelvic floor muscles relaxed and she had no more pain!

 So what do I do?

No amount of kegels or biofeedback is going to help you get a strained, traumatized muscle stronger until it gets some help. It’s amazing how instantaneously a muscle can respond and contract when it’s not being lengthened or in a state of shock from the birth.  So getting your pelvis back into it’s normal position can greatly help your pelvic floor muscles ability to contract.

 

Most practitioners don’t know about this stuck birthing pelvis and your doctor will most likely look at you weird if you bring this to their attention.   They all are just dealing with the physical tissues that when you look at the tissues everything appears just fine.   They aren’t aware of and don’t know how to address the energetics, emotions or trauma that get so tied up into the tissues keeping them held in this birthing pattern. You have to address them all in order for the tissues to release and the pelvis to return to it’s normal pre-birth state.

 

I have found in working with women that when addressing the release of the trauma, the stuck energy and emotions that occurred during the birth, the pelvis can return to it’s normal pre-birthing position.   The sooner after the birth one comes in the better.   It’s easier to release the birth pattern because it hasn’t been stuck in the body for a length of time for it to think it’s the new normal position to stay in. However no matter how long it’s been you can still release the bones and tissues so they can find their natural place. It’s just takes a bit longer.

 

There isn’t a way for you to help close your pelvis on your own.  I’m working on it!  I find the exercises don’t get rid of the trauma in the tissues to allow the bones to close back up again.  So seeing a Birth Healing Specialist is your best option at this point.  You can find a practitioner in our directory by searching HERE!    I”m teaching courses all year long so keep checking back frequently as we are adding providers to the website all year long.  Also, you can encourage any practitioner you see to come take  a course so they can learn how to help you out!

 

 

 

 

Why Don’t I Love My Baby?

March 22, 2015 in Childbirth, Post Partum, Pregnancy


crying baby
Photo courtesy of David Castillo Dominici

“Who is this strange little being lying on my chest?”

“You don’t feel familiar.”

For 9 months I have longed to meet you and see your face, yet I look down at you and wonder to whom you belong. “You don’t feel like you are mine.”

I thought I would instantly fall in love with you but I’m not! Something must be wrong with me. I’m a bad mom. How can I not love my newborn babe?

This frightening scenario happens all too often for new moms. When new moms suffer a disconnection from their baby, something traumatic has happened during the birth process.  I call this a traumatic response.   In the pelvis energy gets stuck and locked up.     This can lead to urinary leakage, difficulty with bowel movements, pain with intercourse, a general feeling of ungroundedness or not feeling like yourself.  Most heartbreakingly of all this traumatic response can block the bonding process between babe and mom leaving her to feel like a bad mom.

I got to experience first hand the healing that can happen when moms get the support they need to unlock this energy and fall deeply in love with their baby.

Sue (name has been changed) came to see me 2 weeks after the birth of her second baby, a boy. She was complaining about not feeling as connected to this baby as she was to her first baby, a daughter she delivered 2 years ago. She fell instantly in love with her daughter who ended up being a very easy baby. Her son was a totally different story.   He was very fussy and was having difficulty digesting his meals.

I asked Sue about the difference she experienced between her two births.   She reported that this second baby had a much more difficult time coming out. Her first birth was uneventful and progressed smoothly. As Sue described her experience with the second birth there were several points during the process where she experienced a traumatic response.

At one point during the first stage of labor the baby got stuck and Sue wasn’t progressing.   Her intelligent, intuitive doula had her get into a position to help reposition the baby and then things were able to progress. Before that repositioning though Sue doubted her ability to continue. Any doubt in your ability to birth can trigger a traumatic response.  We can avoid this traumatic response when we work with a conscious birth professional who can help us give voice to our doubts and move beyond them.

When Sue was in the hospital feeling the need to push, the nurses and staff were telling her to hold off because the doctor wasn’t there yet, even though her body was doing it anyway!   This is an interruption to the flow of the birthing energy. Trying to resist the incredible urge that your body is automatically doing is traumatic because you can’t!

As I was tuning into Sue’s energy field it was very “buzzy” and full of static. There wasn’t any calmness around her in her field.  The energy in her pelvic space was frozen and locked up.   Sue’s baby felt very rigid and tense and wasn’t settled. Both Sue and baby were ungrounded and disconnected.

As we gently cleared the trauma and reprocessed the birth Sue joyfully reconnected back into her body.

After our session Sue felt more grounded, calm and connected. As she breastfed her baby tears started flowing as she said, “I finally feel like he’s mine. This is the first time I will be able to bring my baby home with me.”

Sue’s confidence in her mothering of this new babe was restored.   She left my office with more love for her baby and the ability to be a better mom.

If you are struggling with any of this, please reach out no matter where you live.  You can schedule a Skype session with me and we can get you unblocked, more connected to your baby so you can be the mom you were meant to be!

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Image courtesy of Tom Clare at FreeDigitalPhotos.net

Image courtesy of Tom Clare at FreeDigitalPhotos.net

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